- 08 Aug 2023
- Jerra Mitchell
The decision to remain childfree is a personal one that's often met with unfair misconceptions and stereotypes. Childfree individuals (those who intentionally choose not to have children) often experience backlash and having to verbally defend themselves about their lifestyle. In this blog, we will debunk three of the most common myths about childfree people, shedding light on the reality of our choices and experiences.
Myth 1: Childfree People are Selfish
One of the most common myths about childfree individuals is that we are selfish. This assumption stems from the belief that not having children allows them to focus exclusively on their own desires and goals. (I mean...what's wrong with that???)
Reality: Childfree individuals make this choice for various valid reasons, including concern for the environment, career aspirations, health considerations, and the desire to contribute to society in other meaningful ways. Many actively engage in volunteer work, mentorship, and community involvement, demonstrating that their decision is far from being rooted in selfishness.
Myth 2: Childfree People are Lonely and Regretful
Another misconception is that those without children will inevitably lead lonely lives and will regret their decision as they age. "You're gonna die lonely," is a nonsensical phrase that's told to the childfree community. This myth relies on the assumption that parenthood is the sole source of companionship and fulfillment. Hmph.
Reality: Childfree individuals cultivate deep and meaningful relationships, both within and outside their families. They have the freedom to build and maintain connections, pursue hobbies, and invest time in self-care. Furthermore, studies have shown that many childfree individuals are content with their decision as they age, because it affords them the opportunity to experience life on their own terms.
Myth 3: Childfree People Hate Children
Perhaps one of the most unfair myths is that childfree individuals dislike or even hate children. This stereotype can be damaging and is often perpetuated without any basis in reality. (Now, there are some childfree people who dislike children, and quite frankly, that's their business.)
Reality: The decision to not have children doesn't stem from a dislike of children. Childfree people have various reasons for not having children, that have no correlation to their feelings towards children. Many childfree people have positive relationships with nieces, nephews, friends' children, and other young people. Their decision reflects a thoughtful consideration of their own desires, lifestyles, and responsibilities rather than any negative feelings towards children.
Debunking these myths about childfree individuals is crucial for promoting understanding and respect for their lifestyle choices. Just as those who choose parenthood deserve support and understanding, so do those who choose to be childfree. Recognizing the validity of these choices and the diverse reasons behind them is critical for valuing other's personal autonomy and diverse paths to fulfillment and happiness.
- 31 Mar 2022
- Jerra Mitchell
Don't get it twisted...this is NOT an attack on the ever-so-popular "mompreneur" and other mommy platforms on social media. But, in a world that preaches inclusivity, why do most people frown upon those who choose NOT to have children? If mothers can post about their day-to-day activities, so can we!
We have the right to showcase our lifestyle without it being misconstrued as bragging, irresponsible, or annoying. (Although some childfree platforms explicitly brag about being childfree, that's not what Unfertilized Eggs is about.)
We should'nt have to remain silent or hide how happy we are that we chose a life that best fits us, instead of falling victim to societal "norms." You have the right to be the rich auntie, fly stepmom, loving dog mom, or caring plant mom. (Did we miss anything??)
Childfree women are some of the bravest and free-spirited people around - and that should be celebrated.
With that said, on this last day of Women's History Month, we encourage you to continue to boldly and unapologetially own your childfree status, and never worry about what other people have to say about you. Your uterus, your business.
**For more affirmations and support along your childfree journey, be sure to join the email community at Unfertilized Eggs! We send weekly, empowering emails to our childfree & childless subscribers. Sign up at www.unfertilizedeggs.com **
- 22 Mar 2022
- Jerra Mitchell
By now, I'm pretty sure you've seen the interview where Mary J. Blige explained that she didn't want children because she enjoys her freedom. Rightfully so, several people applauded her for that statement. Childfree women DO have the freedom and flexibility to get up and go without having to scramble around for a babysitter, as Mary J. also mentioned...